The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me!

For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Heather.

I’m a 29-year-old disabled social media marketer, writer, entrepreneur and all around awesome person.

I am passionate about many things, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned over my 29 years on this Earth, it’s that we won’t get very far without kindness. I’ve spent a large portion of my life doing whatever I could to spread kindness, often putting other’s needs before my own. As a result, I’ve been through more than any one should have to suffer. I’ve been abused mentally, emotionally and sexually. When I was growing up, I was surrounded by girls who did everything they could to try to tear me down.

But guess what? It didn’t work. While I still give them more mental real estate than they’re worth, they didn’t take away my faith in humanity. They didn’t turn me into jaded cynic who hated people. I was strong in the face of insurmountable odds, and even though it’s been a long journey full of many mistakes and many setbacks, I’ve never been more determined to take charge of my life. This is why I am here, sharing my story with all of you.

Here’s what I am going to do:

1. I’m working on an app idea that would help cis-gendered, trans women and non-binary individuals take charge of the world around them and establish safe spaces. This idea came to me when I was in a raw, vulnerable place and was deep in the throes of recovery from childhood sexual abuse and multiple assaults in adulthood. At the beginning of my recovery, I had an idea for a way to help women help themselves, and now two years into my recovery process, I am ready emotionally and mentally to take proactive measures to make this idea a reality.
2. I’m teaching myself as much as I possibly can so that I can ensure that my resume is top-notch. I’m teaching myself Excel, WordPress, Hootsuite, Coding and much, much more. My days off will now be spent teaching myself and learning everything I can. My days off, henceforth, will be known as hustle days. The most successful people hustle, they have grit, and they get shit done.
3. I refuse to victimize myself any longer. I refuse to live in the past. I refuse to self-sabotage. Going forward, I am taking proactive measures to take charge of my recovery from Complex-PTSD, and treatment of my various illnesses/disabilities. I will do whatever it takes to get the answers I need, to advocate for myself and others, and to live my best life.
4. I will create more, I will give myself permission to suck, to fail, and to fail better. Samuel Beckett perhaps said it best when he said, “Fail again, fail better.” In fact, I know someone who resonated with this quote so well that he tattooed it on his ribs. This quote relates to me in so many ways. I want to create, I tell stories, and for too long I’ve cared what others thought. Today, I give myself permission to suck. Fuck what any one else thinks, I’m going to suck, I’ll fail again, and fail better.